20 Questions that Erode Perfectionism

Ever encounter someone perfectionistic and judgemental at the same time? Perfection can easily be the perversion and corruption of excellence. “The perfect is the enemy of the good.” Perfectionism is sometimes used as a club to harm others. What’s underneath? Barbie & Perfectionism, topic covered below. What explains it the best: “Perfectionism nearly always hasContinue reading “20 Questions that Erode Perfectionism”

4 Leadership Lessons from Horse-Guided Coaching

What can a 1200 pound horse teach you about leadership? In 2010, I found out as Cherokee walked up and chose me in an experience that has forever changed the way I relate to both people and animals in my professional and personal work as a coach and consultant. The photos below reflect my earlyContinue reading “4 Leadership Lessons from Horse-Guided Coaching”

Using Jung to Clarify the Power of Introversion and Extroversion in Coaching

Learn how to move out of the shallows of those old introvert & extrovert labels. What’s best used as a combo with other aspects of personality?  Introversion and Extroversion.   The famed psychiatrist and founder of analytical psychology, Carl Jung, is one of the few that has added clarity to the oversimplification or archaic use of introversionContinue reading “Using Jung to Clarify the Power of Introversion and Extroversion in Coaching”

Seven (7) Ways to Respond to Bullying and a Queen Bee

Are you experiencing prolonged harassment?  It may be that you may have just encountered a bully, or, when adding gender into the mix, experiencing an adult “mean girl.” As the number of women in the workforce and in leadership increases, stress in leadership roles has naturally affected women, as it does men,  and can include gender-nuancedContinue reading “Seven (7) Ways to Respond to Bullying and a Queen Bee”

Agile Leader Learning for Sustainable Change: Best Models to Adapt to Change

You’ve probably experienced it, that uncomfortable feeling of letting go of something tried and formerly true without knowing what is coming next. Welcome to the Neutral Zone, coined by change writer William Bridges1 who helped us understand the human element in Change and Transitions. In the 21st century, it’s important to  unlearn what no longer meets theContinue reading “Agile Leader Learning for Sustainable Change: Best Models to Adapt to Change”

The Impact of a Challenging Goal, Parasailing in Key West

If you’re trying to be miserable, it’s important you don’t have any goals. No school goals, personal goals, family goals. Your only objective each day should be to inhale and exhale for 16 hours before you go to bed again. Don’t read anything informative, don’t listen to anything useful, don’t do anything productive. If youContinue reading “The Impact of a Challenging Goal, Parasailing in Key West”

Selecting a Coach: 10 Questions to Ask Your Prospective Coach

Terry “TJ” Wisner interviewed me about how to select a good coach for your needs. I cover the 3-C model of coaching and offer 10 questions useful for deciding who would be great in helping you achieve solid results through selecting a coach for your needs. –Deb

The Pervasive Talent Myths Meet FLOW, Using Your Strengths

The findings cited are common. Consider the Talent Myth not as a myth but as a capacity FACT. Such views that you can be ANYTHING create an economy of self-help seminars, books, academies and plenty of revenue in leadership coaching. One label for this prevailing viewpoint is Blank Slate, a you-can-be-anything view given the proper attitude, support and practice. It is also a recipe for frustration and unhappiness, often limiting full effectiveness and success. Consider a different approach.